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Dr Miguel Toribio-Mateas's avatar

Acknowledging your own bullshit is the best bit, but also the hardest bit of this whole vulnerability thing... 💖

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Daniel O'Shaughnessy's avatar

Lifelong lessons with easy setbacks 🩷

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Filomena komodromou's avatar

Beautifully written Daniel ❤️

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Daniel O'Shaughnessy's avatar

Thank you so much Filomena ❤️

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LaMonica Curator's avatar

Reaching #5 is the Vulnerability journey right there. What if ‘connection’ is changed to ‘understanding’?

Ironically I have something coming out on Thursday about vulnerability as well, with a different twist: How the more vulnerable I became required me to understand the vulnerability into a strength. In this instance it was less about ‘being seen’ and more about operating around it.

So there must be many shades of Vulnerability— I bet there isn’t enough discourse on any of it. Thank you for making the leap with yours.

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Anna's avatar

I think people might hate me for saying this — however, I think vulnerability is a very different experience for men than it is for women. Women are always vulnerable because of the nature of patriarchy — I've had a lifetime of not feeling safe because of all the abuse and disrespect I have endured at the hands of men. I don't hate men. In fact, there are many men that I adore and appreciate. But, when men say “hey, let’s talk about vulnerability.” Yes. Talk about vulnerability in the context of being a man living in a man’s world. Men have their own unique sets of challenges. Men also experience difficulties in relationships.

I think I'm responding to what I think might have been saying — different kinds of vulnerability under different circumstances. It’s not just acknowledging your own bullshit because that'd just part of the work — peeling back the layers of your onion. But, what if someone doesn't like your onion? What if you like your onion more and more and as you're peeling it back, someone else says, “Wow! That onion stinks! I prefer Valdalia onions. They're much sweeter and tastier than you!” It’s all relative. We cannot dismiss power dynamics either.

I’m feeling like a raw vulnerable onion right now.

I guess I'm deviating from the original point of the article. I’ll need to find your article, LaMonica. Not sure if I read it. Like to read what you said.

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